Today i was looking @ one of my friend's online page and saw the quote in the title "Pain is inevitable but suffering is ur own choice ". The page contained an article abt love and the pain u feel in being ignored. I read that article and thought a lot abt the feelings of the person who wrote it. It was the same old story of a person who was ignored by his lady love. It looks that the person was a lovelorn, a person who was carelessly ignored, never did anyone feel sympathetic for him for the suffering that he had undergone. The Person had lots of similarities to the Knight in the poem by John Keats " La Belle Dame Sans Merci " ( The woman without mercy).......
At the bottom of the article there was a quote which is nthin but the above title. Immediately i serched for this poem on our best friend Google. I started looking at the knight's character keeping in mind the above quote and lots of questions popped up in my grey matter. Was the knight wrong in falling in love with the most beautiful woman he had ever met ?? was he wrong in believing that the woman too had the same feelings towards him after all that love and effection that she showed?? or was he wrong in wandering all over the place in search of that beautiful lady without mercy after she had ditched him ?? Finally i got the answer. Yeah the knight was right in falling in love with the lady but once he came to know that the lady had ditched him he shuld have returned to his normal life or atleast shuld have made an effort. I feel, this is the biggest mistake on part of the knight.
Yes , as the article in the link at the bottom states love strikes u @ some point in life. As they say it might probably be the most beautiful and joyful experience that u ever encounter. It might make u look @ everyone and everything in the world with a different frame of mind. Everything is fine till this point, But this is ur case, what abt the girl/guy whom ur having feelings towards ?? Is It the same with her ?? The answer is might not be.... One of my frenz @ college once said she is very sure that love is a feeling from both ends. What she ment and still means is When u get that feeling of love towards a person it is almost (she gave a 100p.c) sure that the person also has the same feelings towards u. she might be right, she might be wrong but the point i want to make is are we not treading a very thin line here and taking a lot of risk. U fall head on heals in love with the person and when u hear that inevitable words of "Sorry, I just thought u as a frend ", u turn out to be another knight in the making. But this might not be the case with all ppl, there might be some of them who avoid making that terrible mistake of thinking that everything is lost in this world and suffer, this is because they understand
"Pain is inevitable, but suffering is ur own choice"......
reference :
http://varun.manipal.googlepages.com/